“When you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
~When Harry met Sally~
We're starting to see intimate weddings as the new norm, and in all honesty it’s quite precious, given that a wedding with 50 guests or less can be more heartfelt, relaxed and sincere. It's so exciting to see this trend forming.
I've been giving the topic of micro weddings, or "minimonies" as we call it here in Singapore, a lot of thought. We’re already seeing an increase in enquiries for smaller guest counts popping up in some of the most popular locations, and I think it is safe to say we can expect to see this trend continuing for years to come, which means that it’s probably time to adapt and hop aboard the train of change. To help you, I've compiled a list of tips to guide you on planning your dream wedding in a much smaller dose.
Reschedule, don't cancel your venue:
If you already had a grand celebration planned, try and reschedule your date & venue capacity to fit a smaller number of guests. Wedding venues are more open to rearranging
quantities than having a complete cancellation; it is still in their best interest to accommodate you and give you the experience you've always dreamed of. Like you, vendors have also been affected by the pandemic and are more willing to help you where they can.
If you've not booked yet, great!. There is a much greater selection of wedding venues available for you to choose from if you drop your numbers. Unique spaces like art galleries, wineries, rooftop apartments etc. are great options to consider when toning it down. The majority of intimate venues can only host up to 30-50 guests at a time, therefore making the whole experience a little more personal.
Reach out to your vendors:
Speak your suppliers, they are in the same boat as you, they will probably be more accommodating than you think, as their interest lies in making sure the wedding industry
stays alive. They should always be able to help and work out a solution to give you the best experience, service and product to benefit you both. Now this could come at an extra cost, especially if products and materials have been arranged and paid for already, but it's good to keep open honest communication with your vendor to ensure that you help one another, and find a solution that works. If you’re having a destination wedding, your suppliers might need to rebook their flights & accommodation. Remember to take all of this into account as they would have had to cover costs for the multiple days that they refused bookings so they could cover your destination wedding.
Your wedding guests are important too:
Just like you needed an RSVP from your guests to help you plan, you need to inform your guests as early as possible that your wedding is postponed, regardless of having a new date or not. Let them know that you are scaling down, and that there is a possibility that you will not be able to host a large party, and that only close family and friends will be attending. It might even come as a blessing to them in these stringent times. As an alternative, consider asking them to join a video call for the ceremony, giving them a chance to connect and send their wishes to you personally.
When it comes to your actual wedding day, scaling down isn't all that bad. At the average large wedding, between the ceremony, family photos, dinner, toasts, cake cutting, and special dances, you’ll likely only have a few seconds to actually interact with each of your guests. Whereas with a smaller wedding, you’re able to take your time and share more intimate moments with each of your guests. It also makes it easier to have pre and post wedding day dinners and celebrations, making even more time to spend with the people who have taken the time to travel and share your special day.
More decor and finer details:
It's quite simple; with the same budget, or even a little less, you can have a much more luxurious and detailed wedding with fewer guests, than you would with a larger celebration. Because you are spending less on the necessities (food for them to eat, places for them to sit, etc., etc.), you can focus more of your resources on creating those intentional personal touches that not only you, but also your guests will love. Get the 5 course menu instead of the 3, opt for orchids instead of lilies, and make your day what you essentially want it to be, to the last detail.
Finally, remember that having a smaller wedding doesn’t necessarily mean that all aspects will be less expensive; vendors such as photographers, bands, DJ etc can still only do one wedding per day, and it’s the same amount of work for them whatever the size of your celebration. So if you think smaller event always means lower prices, just remember that this may not always be the case for some vendors.